Noise cancelling head phones Autism

Fireworks are fast approaching. And in some places they are already starting with the shows in some neighborhoods. But who really wants to play out the nose for noise cancelling head phones? $50.00, for a pair of head phones. Are you serious?

I'm a bargain shopper. That's all it boils down to for me. I'm not going to pay $50.00 for a pair of head phones Doodle may or may not eat or tear apart. So what's a parent to do when they are faced with having to constantly buy things over and over and over again.

There is this wonderful store called Harbor Freight. When there is something that I need that I know I will be able to find at this store for what can only be deemed as the store for men. They have just about anything when it comes to tools. tools and more tools. I like it here cause when I was looking for something for my soaping projects they had it for far cheaper then Walmart. Yes, cheaper then Walmart.

So when it came to finding the noise cancelling headphones for Doodle's first concert, Harbor Freight was the first place I went too. You normally get a flyer in your Sunday newspaper for Harbor Freight. 20% on any item in the store. So with my flyer in hand the moment I walked into the door I saw the noise cancelling headphones right near the registers on an end aisle cap. And the price was $6.99. How is that for savings? With my 20% off coupon I paid far less then what they were advertised for in the store. SCORE!!!!

And the best part is that Doodle has yet to tear up these head phones. Which makes this the best investment in a long time.

So for your nightmare night, save yourself some time and money and invest in your local Harbor Freight store and pick up a pair of noise cancelling head phones. You'll thank yourself later.

You guys have a great day!

Doodle's headphones/ear muffs are orange and not black.

Merry Christmas from Autism

I wasn't sure if I was going to post today or not. But it never hurts to tell you all Merry Christmas from Doodle and myself. Doodle made off like a bandit with shopkins. Her movie night box from Wednesday's craft was a big hit, as Doodle loves to snack. When the Minions movie was playing on the tv she actually stopped to watch the movie, which made it a success.

I know some moms raising kids on the spectrum aren't having the best of days because their kiddo's don't get it. I have a friend that doesn't decorate and doesn't do the whole presents thing. It's her day off and she enjoys it with her kid who isn't on the spectrum. If next year you don't want to do the whole gift thing or decorating thing, don't worry about it. Christmas is about what you make it to be. Don't look for too many expectations. Don't worry about going above and beyond. Keep it simple. Don't stress yourself out, it's just not worth it. I think I ran myself more ragged when Doodle and I had an actual family unit. Trying to please others was just too exhausting. Christmas was just miserable to me. Not anymore. I just do the simple now and I'm much happier then I've been in a long time.

Doodle got some shopkins and all she cares about right now is coloring and watching Alvin and the Chipmunks chipwrecked. She got an art kit like she does every year and a chipmunk coloring book. This time around they had the road chip coloring book. Doodle has loved Alvin and the Chipmunks since she was three. And I can only get Alvin and the chipmunks coloring books at Michael's craft store for just a dollar! It's my go to coloring book where I know I'm not gonna fail at Christmas.

And the next big thing to celebrate for us is Doodle's birthday which is in January. So it's soon going to be time to figure out what to get Doodle for her birthday. I'm sure $50 in shopkins will do the trick. I will need to figure out if there is anything that Alvin and the Chipmunks has out and maybe also a large Care Bear. As Care Bears are something that she's getting into right now. Autism obsessions are grating my nerves! It's something I will need to seriously think on. You guys have a great day and enjoy some pictures of Doodle ripping into gifts from this morning.

 

DIY Christmas gift Autism

So today is Wednesday and I wrote this on Monday so that this could be posted on time. Yeah I know at this point Christmas is two sleeps away and I've got a last minute DIY. This project was done on December 21st on Monday before I wrote Monday's blog post. Monday was a huge day for me. It was the day I got the last of my Christmas shopping done. I knew not to take Doodle with me but at this point it couldn't be helped. I did it and I will do it again if I need too. But I am completely done with Christmas shopping.

So on with the DIY Christmas gift I know she will love. Last month I got Doodle and I some new boots for the cold days and got myself some riding boots. Best investment I have made in awhile! The box for those boots helped to make this DIY.

I got this idea from a youtube video. For this you can put your own spin on it.

All you need is a large shoe box. If a shoe box is the hardest thing to find, Michaels Craft store has you covered with plenty of different size boxes that you can fill to your hearts content! To decorate the box I got some chalk board stickers to place around the box to cover the fact it's a boot box. And on the chalk board labels I wrote in chalk (which was provided) Movie Night. In the shoe box I put in a pair of pajama's. This is why Doodle went shopping with me. She picked out the pj's she wanted. A shopkins shirt and I picked out her pink plaid bottom pants.

Then I filled the box up with plenty of snacks. I actually went to Michael's craft store and picked up clear bags to fill popcorn with. I didn't want her to have an entire bag of popcorn as it's not really a serving size. These bags are the perfect serving size. I also picked up some chocolate chip cookies and some hot cocoa mix to go in the mug that I made for Doodle for Christmas. Along with a bag of chips.

Also hidden in the box is the new Minions movie and a DVD of Alvin and the Chipmunks that plays on Nickelodeon everyday. But Doodle isn't the only one getting new pj's. Since Doodle is getting an 18 inch doll that she wanted last month (another Christmas present) the new doll is going to be getting pj's too!

So this is a creative way to fill a box with all things fun while your kid watches a movie. The Movie Night box as I like to call it. And on that note Christmas lands on the next day that the next blog post is suppose to go out. Since this is our family day together I doubt I will be posting. So you guys have a fabulous time with your family and please fill free to make your own version of the Movie Night box, if you are having a hard time getting a gift for that hard to buy for person in your life. And considering that it's last minute you can still get plenty of treats for your box along with pj's and movies.

I forgot to remove the doritos to show you guys the two DVD's that Doodle is getting for Christmas.

First Concert Autism

Now I know how Kreed's family feels when they take him to concerts. If you don't know who Kreed is then you have to look up Kreed's World. Kreed has autism and though Doodle isn't has sever as Kreed some of her regression prevents her from doing a lot of things right now. This was Doodle's first concert and I had been really nervous about it. I wasn't sure how she was going to react. But she did awesome and clapped and cheered at appropriate parts. She was getting tired without help from melatonin by the time Tobymac got on the stage at 9:00 pm.

Yep, Doodle went to see Tobymac. And she loved it. This was her very first concert and she had a blast. She sang the chorus on some songs and decided since there was no one sitting in the seats in front of us she was going to sit in one of them. I didn't mind as long as she didn't bolt for it. She did great. She laughed and yelled out. Jumped around and danced. Her favorite part of the concert was when the confetti was flying around the room.

Of course we bought swag. Can't go to a concert and not come back with what you want. Doodle and myself got shirts that read Label me a Jesus Freak. And her Uncle who went to the concert with us got, This is not a Test t-shirt. I also got the CD for his new album because it was cheaper then at the Christian store.

It was a great family time at the concert. We all danced and sang. A great time was had. And yes I will do it again. I can't wait until Newsboys come our way or Big Daddy Weave. Of course it will be awesome when Jamie Grace comes to our little neck of the woods.

You guys have a great day and I will see you guys on Wednesday!

Getting ready for the concert.

Tobymac and Hollyn rehearsing before the concert. She pranked him by wearing a shirt identical to his.

Tobymac and Michael from Newsboys. For those who don't know Michael and Tobymac were in the group DC Talk. The number one song of all time was and is Jesus Freak.

Tobymac and Diversecity

Waiting for the concert to start.

The shirts Doodle and I got.

This is the Princess. She is Nirva Ready and she is the only woman in Diversecity, so Doodle calls her the princess. Mrs. Ready has the best voice!

8 days til Christmas Autism

I think this is the first year I've been more joyous about Christmas. Usually, it's just the motion of making sure that all the kids got presents and of course the teachers, therapists, the para educators and the crossing guards. I do believe that everything changed for me the moment that Doodle started to progress again. That's when I got my joy back. It's not just Thanksgiving that I was to have something thankful for. This year I am thankful for progression! And I an thankful that as they say the trash has taken itself out on facebook.

Yeah that just came into play! So far this year I haven't been tagged in stupid stuff for the holidays. YAY me!!! That and I've also turned off my notification sounds. Oh boy will that drive someone to drink.

Doodle's Christmas is just about done with. All I have to do now is get some pajama's in either My Little Pony or Minions and finish putting together her movie box. I was going to make her 18 inch doll she is getting for Christmas some slippers but Doodle took off with the foam. And now I will have to go back to work to get more. Thanks Doodle. But it could be worse. I could be unclogging the bathroom sink again from glitter, sticks and dirt again. It's the small things that mean so much to me.

This years gifts to the teachers, therapists and para's was a holiday mug. And with a little note to the teacher that read my cup runneth over. Thank you! I am truly blessed with this new teacher. It seems like ages since I've had a teacher that got. It feels like ages even though it's only been part of the school year.

And on that note I have just now remembered how to add books to my kindle on the computer and need to get back to testing.

Let me know what you guys need help with or what you want to see in the blog. Because at this point I think what's going to start showing up while Doodle is out of school will be thinks I've written previously but never posted. I don't know why I didn't do that on Monday or Wednesday but hey, we all have lives and a good portion of you who read the blog know the struggles of Autism and how it can be a topsy turvy of a time.

You guys have a great day!

In honor of my Doodle!

2nd iep in the week Autism

Yeah you read that title correctly. This week I've had two iep meetings. Both were emergency meetings. Yesterday was my second one and it involved the school board.

You see the school wanted to make Doodle a half day student because of her new aggressive behavior. Flinging chairs in class has never been something that Doodle has ever done. But when her teacher conditioned her that she can get out of class with crying well it started the regression. When crying in class no longer worked to get out of doing school work Doodle amped the anti. Or she took it up a notch. Apparently this teacher hasn't had much experience with teaching children with autism though she claims that she comes from a school in our state that is nothing but an autism school. So she would have learned how to deal with these type of behaviors and she would have known the way that kids on the spectrum are to be taught and treated.

I came into this second meeting with information from Doodle's teacher from 3 years ago. The one who pulled Doodle out of her first regression. And I also had information from Doodle's pediatrician. All three of us are in agreement that medication is not going to work as there is lack of structure in the classroom. Once the structure is re-established then and only then would any type of medication be effective. But considering that Doodle can function very well without medication, there really is no need to put her on it. The stuff I use at home works at home but doesn't work at the school. So where does the problem lie? You guessed it, with the teacher and her teaching methods.

Now as you all know I'm not a happy camper with my childs' regression and I'm not a happy camper with with her aggression in the classroom. I don't have aggressive behaviors with her at home. It's only happening at school.

So going into the meeting I made them very much aware of what Doodle's teacher from 3 years ago informed me of. Finding out the function of her behavior. Is it avoiding, wanting to avoid, attention escape or sensory? Those are the questions that have to be asked when trying to figure out why the child with asd is acting the way that they are. According to her previous teacher it's because she was trying to escape doing her school work. And with that information on the table I went straight into what needs to be done to nip this in the bud according to her previous teacher.

Doodle is going to need to re-take compliance training, hand over hand training and even re-taught her expectations. Once who ever the teacher is going to be in that classroom does this it will all stop. But according to the temporary teacher in the classroom right now, Tuesday was the only day Doodle flew into a rage and right now everything is getting back on track. Doodle is actually progressing at home and is progressing at school since Tuesday.

She's been placed on half days currently but it's not from 7:30-11:30, it's 7:30-1:30 and we will work it back to normal schedule from there. Being that she is getting out at 1:30 every day won't be going against FAPE. IDEA and FAPE both say that a special education student has to have the same time frame in school as regular ed students. They have to be treated equally. And unless all the children in the school are getting out at 11:30 everyday that was a no go.

What I have noticed this week is Doodle is now speaking in complete sentences. I'm pretty shocked and ecstatic over this development. Last night watching Rudolph's Shiny New Year with her she pointed to the television and said, "Look its a vulture. V V V (v sounds) starts with V". That may sound normal but for me its not. She normally says, "Look mom look, its a bird!" So you can see that her naming the type of bird that this creature was is a huge step in the right direction!

I do know that the teacher that was teaching this class will be back on Monday. She's out this week. But when she comes back Doodle's not the only one taking compliance training. The teacher and the para educators will be too.

You see the reason I am pushing so hard is because Doodle was diagnosed as mildly autistic which means that with the right help and therapy she will have a normal life eventually as a regular ed student. She will be able to get into college and will be able to become a doctor just like she wants. She will always have her autism but she will be in regular ed classes, can do the work without help like regular ed students, be able to get into art classes with regular ed students (technically she's allowed that right now, it's in IDEA and not allowing this will be in violation of IDEA and FAPE).

I can't stress this enough, know your laws, know your rights. Not everyone can hold your hand every moment of the day. If someone who has a lot of experience with ieps and they get results is giving you advice, make sure you are following it to a T. No if's, and's or butt's about it.

And for another part of the meeting, I really hated to do this but it had to b done. Doodle's regular education progress report came home (not her iep/special education report which is against the law if I don't get it) and she made A-B honor roll. Now the meeting we had 2 weeks ago it was stated in that meeting that Doodle eats more work then she does. Which means that my child is not on A B honor roll. I really hate being lied to. I can't stand it. So I requested that her grades be changed to reflect the current work in class. Yes, there is a possibility that she will flunk this year and it will look bad on review when she applies to college. This could damage all changes of getting into college. I'm aware and I'm already dreading it. But what can I do? Let's not sugar coat the situation and say yeah I haven't done my job as a teacher so since I'm forced to put grades into the computer system let's lie about it.

If she's graded on homework, yeah, she will make A-B honor roll but since she's not. Can't be done. I am working with the school to try and get this resolved. Doodle used to test very high at the school and now she doesn't. So right now until the FBA (Functional Behavioral Assessment) comes in we are pretty much at a stand still with everything.

You guys have a great day, I need to get back to work.

Violation of Rights Autism

I think that title pretty much sums it up. How would there be a violation on rights would you ask? Well, that's an easy one. Doodle's teacher conditioned Doodle to escape work. If she cried she got to go out of the classroom and walk around for awhile until she calmed down. When it got to the point the crying wasn't working Doodle upped the anti. Being aggressive got her to escape school work. So for the past 4 months as long as she didn't have to do school work Doodle was happy which helped with the regression. Because well, Doodle didn't have to learn anything.

Oh dear! That's just not a good thing. Well, now there is a new teacher in the classroom and she's fearing for her life! The previous teacher caused that issue and I can't correct the issue because it's not my problem. And when I say it's not my problem I'm saying this. It didn't happen on my watch. The teacher caused the issue the school is responsible for fixing the issue. As some would say, "It's not on my hand receipt".

So yesterday I was to go into the school and attend the Santa workshop with Doodle. 45 minutes before it was time for me to go in I got a call from the school. Doodle flipped her wig and they had to evacuate the classroom. It's a safety issue the school is dealing with and I haven't been prepped on their behavioral intervention plan yet. But the school was more then happy with wanting to put her on half days. Not in the right mind of thinking I went down to the school and signed the paperwork for half days. Because you don't really think to research when the school is demanding that you come down there immediately. Upon returning home with Doodle I got to do my research and her rights are being violated by going to half days.

If you want to know about your child's rights you can look up Special Needs rights, FAPE (Free and Appropriate Public Education) and FERPA (Family Education Rights and Privacy Act). Just reading through FAPE last night I saw so many infractions from Doodle's teacher alone I was pretty much grinning all night long. Why would I be grinning? That's pretty much a hands down blink and I've won lawsuit.

And did you know that even after you sign the IEP you can revoke it after the fact. Most people don't realize that game changer. Not even most schools. So that's what I tried to do this morning. And I was shut down in my tracks. Oh that's so nice of them. So I tapped the counter with my nails and said, see here's the problem. If I end up going back home I'm going to be tempted to contact my lawyer over a rushed IEP and Doodle's rights being violated. I didn't want to do that. I wanted to try and fix it here. Then I smiled at the woman at the front desk and left.

I was almost finished with the email to the lawyer when I got the call from the school. Doodle is to stay there until normal time to leave as she was used to and I have an IEP meeting tomorrow morning with the heads of the school board at 8 am. Bring it, I'm not scared! As a matter of fact I'm bringing all the papers for FAPE and FERPA outlined in highlighter all the violations. Please do not treat me like I'm stupid. Yes, I have a college degree, yes I am still trying to learn something new every single day! Stupid by far I am not.

So as I continue to get my way I'm going to finish up this email to my lawyer and click send before time escapes me and prepare for what the school thinks is a battle and I think is a puddle. You guys have a great day and I will update you on Friday!