Thanksgiving week Autism

It's Thanksgiving week and I have so much to do. Still working on the magazine and no where near the finish line and it doesn't help that Doodle is out of school for the week. That's gonna be interesting. She's gonna be so mad when she goes back to a communication book.

But this is what we are resorted to going back to since we are losing speech at an incredible rate. If you guys haven't seen the communication book I have posted in a previous blog that's what we are going back too. I will be updating it only because I want to incorporate her to use complete sentences.

This morning I will be dropping my vehicle off to be worked on.

Life with autism can be hard enough, add a free magazine and vehicle repair work to the mix and you have yourself a whole headache of work to do. Now throw in being a single mom and it's Thanksgiving week and you have barely anything to survive off of.

I am considering changing the magazine to be paid but that won't be for a couple of years. I don't want it to come to that but it might have to be done.

I'm going to keep this post short as I know of all the work I have to do this week to get everything finalized for the magazine.

See you guys on the flip side.

So much to be grateful for Autism

When it comes to autism, my child is going to be different from what your child is like. Not everyone has the same things wrong with them. We need to always remember that. Today we are celebrating Veterans Day and the kids are out of school to honor our veterans. I have a class tonight which means that my schedule will be off because my days will be off. Happens all the time when the kids are out of school.

I can't have Doodle just sitting on the iPad all day. She has to have some responsibility. She wanted to bathe the dog because Sunday I told her we were going to bathe the dog. And she wanted the gerbil cage cleaned cause yeah I opened my big mouth.

So if the dog is getting a bath then she's gonna have to pitch in and help. And she fought me on that one. I had her vacuum the floors and the dog bed while I washed the dogs blanket. Cause if the dog is getting a bath it means the dog gets clean blankets and a fresh bed vacuuming.

If the gerbil was getting it's cage cleaned that means my bed will need to be vacuumed. Because that's the easiest place for me to clean it's cage at. I have no idea why, it just is for me. Doodle can watch the gerbil and I can watch them both while cleaning the cage. Or at least pretend to watch them both cause I'm busy taking the cage apart and I don't have to worry about losing a cute little furry paper shredder.

Kids on the spectrum have to have chores. They have to have responsibility. They have to learn about self care and caring for what's important and that's where they live and being respectful by cleaning up their mess and helping to keep everything clean.

I have no issues with making sure my 12 year old knows how to make her bed, dress herself, though some days I'm sure I get the looks of how could you let your child out of the house dressed like that. Eh, I could care less. I have more important things to worry about other then what people think of me. 

As a parent of a child on the spectrum I am tired but only because I do so much. But I want to make sure that Doodle can live on her own and do for herself if it's ever going to be possible. I still have high hopes. I love my child and I want what's best for her and that means she has to learn something new every single day.

See you guys on the flip side.

Mental breaks Autism

There were many different things I could have spoken about today. But I will discuss why there was no post yesterday. In order to function as parents of children on the spectrum it's important to take time for yourself. I've discussed this in previous posts because it's one of the most important things for your sanity.

Look as parents we take on a lot and have to do a lot. There is no way around that. You are either an overachiever who is burning out quick or you are a parent who is already burnt out and have a lot on your plate that just keeps piling up.

So why was there no post yesterday? Because I was taking a much needed mental break. My best friend and I headed to the movies to watch Bohemian Rhapsody, while Doodle was in school. I still had work last night and still had things to do before Doodle left for school this morning. But that mental break is what I needed.

Long before Doodle could speak she was singing Queen songs. That was also covered in a previous blog to celebrate Freddie for a Day. We didn't have traditional speech but we did have words in song. And for that I am truly grateful.

I can't stress enough how important it is for a parent of a child with a disability to take mental breaks. It's also one of the things that I stress about the most at work. You can't be productive if you can't have a break. You can't do anything properly for yourself, your job or your child.

And though I have a child on the spectrum who has regressed and we are trying to get her back to the last good level of functioning, I can't help her if I can't think straight. She's finally sleeping through the night again. And I can get through the days without the burnt out feeling.

If you can't go see a movie at least get a mani pedi. You have to take care of you. That is the most important thing. Love yourself and you are able to love your life. Don't give up! You've got this.

See you on the flip side.